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It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.
Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?
Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home,.do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.
Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date,a friend of a friend of a friend. You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It's less than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food. The entrée has not yet been served. His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four,you aren't into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim,.you haven't sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, Volunteering is a waste of time because you can't help 'those people' anyway. You look at your watch; see that it's only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Been there?
Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don't need to be introduced. You already know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other's favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late,very late,where Has the time gone.
There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend setting you up and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn't there? Now which one would you rather have?
There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man (assuming you determined he is a true man). These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.
While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. You don't want to be too personal just yet. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details, then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have two (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn't know when to shut up or how to listen.
Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you, even come to love you, for exactly the person you are.
Get Over It - Nice Girls Do It Too!
Get Over It - Nice Girls Do It Too!
It is absolutely true that when online dating sites first started they were populated entirely by perverts, sexual predators, weirdoes, social misfits and emotional wrecks but that is no longer true. Online dating has gone mainstream and has lost all the social stigma it once suffered. Single people of all ages, races, religions and both sexes do it. Short people, tall people, thin people, obese people do it. People from every developed country in the world do it. Nice girls do it, too. The reasons people join online dating sites are as varied as the people who join but mostly they join for three very good reasons: (1) Time (2) Money and (3) It works.
Time: You can go through hundreds of online profiles and look at hundreds of pictures in the same length of time only one real world date takes and the screening is already done for you. You can tell right away if a guy is only looking for casual relationships or long term commitments. How many times have you worked 8 hours, gone home and spent another hour getting ready to go out then gone to the local hang-out for singles only to see the same old jerks, losers and drunks that are always there?
Money: For the price of one evening out on the town you can enjoy an entire month of meeting men from the safety of your own home,.do it in your jammies or sweats and with a beauty facial working its magic.
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Continue reading... Comments 29.03.2007. 09:19
A Womans View: The Internet Date Versus The Standard Blind Date
A Womans View: The Internet Date Versus The Standard Blind Date
Your friend has decided that you need help with your social life so she sets you up with a blind date,a friend of a friend of a friend. You, foolishly, accept. Now there you are. It's less than one hour since you were introduced. You are sitting in a Thai restaurant and you hate Thai food. The entrée has not yet been served. His idea of enlightened conversation is who will be in the final four,you aren't into sports. He knows the weekly TV schedule verbatim,.you haven't sat through a movie in months because you run marathons and volunteer at the local food bank. He says, Volunteering is a waste of time because you can't help 'those people' anyway. You look at your watch; see that it's only been 10 minutes since you last looked at it the last time and wonder how long it is before you can gracefully remove yourself from the situation. Been there?
Now imagine a date with someone you met through internet dating and have been chatting online with and exchanging emails with for quite some time. First, you don't need to be introduced. You already know this man. You are sitting in an Italian restaurant enjoying a delightful meal because you both know that the other's favorite is Italian. The conversation flows easily as you discuss common interests. He runs marathons and loves history just like you do. You happily discuss the volunteer work that each of you is involved in. You look at your watch and discover that it is late,very late,where Has the time gone.
There is a big difference between a well-intentioned friend setting you up and choosing a man for yourself who shares your interests and tastes, isn't there? Now which one would you rather have?
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Continue reading... Comments 29.03.2007. 09:17
The List Of Things Not To Do As A Woman Online Dater
The List Of Things Not To Do As A Woman Online Dater
There are some things that women should never do while engaged in an online relationship with a man (assuming you determined he is a true man). These things are certain to put a quick and final end to any further communications with him.
While chatting online or by email do not write your life story. You don't want to be too personal just yet. His eyes will glaze over and he will fall out of his chair. Keep it short and sweet until he asks for details, then provide them slowly and only answer the questions he asks. For instance: If he asks how many siblings you have, he is NOT asking for the details of your interaction with them. He really just wants to know how many you have. Say you have two (or whatever is true) and then ask how many he has. For every question he asks you, you should ask one of him. Nothing turns a man off like a long- winded woman who just doesn't know when to shut up or how to listen.
Never, ever, EVER lie. I really believe that lies will catch up with you sooner or later. Many women (and men) lie about their age, marital status, employment, height, weight and a host of other things in their online profiles. That is a huge mistake. If you find a man who you are really interested in, he will find out you lied and there goes any possibility of the relationship progressing. So, just be honest. There is someone out there who will like you, even come to love you, for exactly the person you are.
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Continue reading... Comments 29.03.2007. 09:16
